The Double D's That Can Change Your Life in an Instant

I first had read that influence was both "Powerful and subtle" when I read of it's description in Jim Rhon's book, Leading an Inspired Life.Took a while for that one to set in. powerful and subtle. Made me realize that there were two things in your life that are related, that are responsible for every major happenstance in your life.

1- Decision. This is our ultimate power. Our choices are what makes things occur in our life. Whether we decide to do something, or sell ourselves on ignoring something that we said we were going to do, those decisions hold the ultimate power. It is as subtle as deciding whether or not you are going to eat an apple a day, or make that one last call to your client when you really don't want to. To deciding that you have had enough of what is going on.

Look at how powerful this is! When you do not draw the line in the sand and choose to no longer go down the path that you are going down, you feel lost, without purpose, and uncertain of what is going to happen in your life. You start to think about what if's instead of what have I made happen. And after a couple of cycles of this, the internal conflict becomes unbearable. The beautiful thing is, that a decision can be made in an instant! the precursor being all that has happend up to that point, but your life can change for the better, just by taking one more breath, and deciding. Leading you to the second D even when you have done your all to ignore being there.

2- Disgust. I'll do my best not to confuse you here, but the introspection and self realization that needs to lead up to your point of disgust requires a lot of energy. That is why you feel drained with something that is on your mind and heart that you know you should do something about, but you don't, because you have not "reached your limit with it yet".


Disgust. There has to be a point where you become disgusted. Not in a negative way, but when you are tired of putting up with it. You tell yourself that enough is enough. "The history of our world is written this way. Look at what happened when a woman says "No! I will not move to the back of the bus!""- Tony Robbins.

You feel relief. The same feeling you get when you are driving in heavy rain, and finally see the lights of your destination. When it is snowing, and you can see the sun through the clouds. When the window is dirty, but you can still choose to focus on the exquisite sunset instead of the dirty specs on the window. Or when you feel that you are lost, and hopeless, and you become disgusted and tell yourself " I will never let this happen again." I will do everything in my power, and devote all that I am to never feeling like this again."

One of the best stories I ever heard, was an interview with an executive at Tiffany & Co. in New York City. When asked how she managed to obtain her status without any College training, she replied..."One day I went and asked my husband for $10 and he replied "What for?" From that day on, I told myself that I would never be in the position where I needed to ask him for money again."

How amazing is that. That something so subtle as a question could produce so much power, and cause that much change in one person's life.

So take the time to look at what is going on. Are there things that you brush off that should be dealt with? Are there things that you need to change, that you should no longer wait to change? Could there be something that you are disgusted with, that you need to make a decision about? Don't ignore the little things. It's the littlest things that make the most difference, and like a bad credit card, if you don't take care of it, it will compound until you get to a place you never thought you would be.

I challenge you to play around with these double D's and see how much better your life feels.

Disgusted? Then Decide. The hope you will have is endless.

To your happiness.

JC

Is your word enough?

"His word is enough"

What does that mean to you when you read that? Literally, it may sound overly brief, but the meaning of this phrase gives feelings to people that would inspire them to move mountains.

Ask yourself this question, are/were there people in your life that make you feel like their words are enough? When they tell you that they will do something, you believe them without a doubt? Or, when they tell you "yes" or "No", that they mean it?

Shouldn't "his word be enough" for your father? Isn't that something that would be amazing to be able to say about your pops? That you have such a great relationship with your father, that all he needs to give you, is nothing more than his words? "It's going to be OK. I Promise. I love you. You are amazing. I am here for you."

Or how about your best friend? Do you think that is why you have the friends that you have? Because there is a mutual understanding that what they tell you and what you tell them is believed, trusted, accepted without conditions? You do not have to doubt what they tell you, or that they are just "feeding you words".

What an amazing concept. Now, I myself am not at this point with all of my friends, yet... As humans, we are the only organisms that can do more/less than we are capable of. Geese fly south, bears hibernate, roosters crow, and dogs bark. What are we meant to do? Strive.

We have the ability to overcome, rewrite, unwind and rewind whatever we do not like in our lives. So Strive. Strive to make sure that your "Word is enough" with those that you choose to share your life with.

This includes everyone that you share your time with. Even if you do not like the person, you must make sure. For yourself, your friends, your loved ones, and your family, that your are not lazy with your words. Use your words lightly, and they will be taken lightly. Use your words carefully, and they will be cherished.

Strive to make your words enough for everyone that you speak to. And watch how your life improves.

Have a great day!

All the best,

JC

Joseph Campbell: You know EVERYONE!!!

Joseph Campbell: You know EVERYONE!!!: "I find it hilarious that people tell me that 'You know everyone' when we go out. I never thought about it, until I moved to the east coast a..."

You know EVERYONE!!!

I find it hilarious that people tell me that "You know everyone" when we go out. I never thought about it, until I moved to the east coast and had to meet new people and discover new places.

It wasn't until dinner with some friends that I realized that it isn't the environment that fosters this phenomena, but the interactions that you have with people that helps this to happen.

This isn't just a post on how you should treat people...just an observation of success

I learned a valuable lesson from a random stranger in moving to this city. his actions have helped me tremendously, and I hope that they provide some insight for you as well.

Every morning, I exit the subway in Times Square, and every morning, there is a man that stands at the top of the stairs and hands out a free newspaper. As sure as you can be about the sun rising, you can always hear him saying "metro, metro..".

He could choose to just stand there with the stack of papers with his arm extended, not say anything, and hope that people will have an interest in reading his paper and pick one up.

But he speaks with a confident, enthusiastic, smiling voice that permeates through crowds.

How does this relate to networking?

Think of a room of people that you have never met before...Room of strangers. Uncomfortable yet?

Take a piece of advice from Andre...Be enthusiastic and speak confidently to people. Think of things that make you happy, and fill yourself with thoughts that make you feel good.

To summarize, Find reasons and thoughts to be grateful for the life that you have. This will permeate from you, and people will literally be attracted to you.

Even though Andre has one of the most insignificant roles in this city, he still is an integral piece of the look and feel of one of the greatest cities in the world.

Everyone has a place and a role...When I asked Andre how he does it every day, his words hit me like a freight train of truth. "Man, I have to be here, why not think of things that make me smile?"

And there it is. Still in the room full of strangers? Think of something that makes you smile. Watch the people look at you when you start smiling. How curious do you find yourself when you see someone smiling of laughing?

Think pleasant thoughts and you will meet pleasant people. "You are who you attract" - John C. maxwell.

As simple as this all sounds... try it. If thinking about a funny thought doesn't work for you in a setting like this then don't do it again. But I would be willing to bet that Andre's advice will work for you.

And everyone knows what happens if you don't try this. Nothing...

Andre knows himself well enough to know what makes him happy. Can you say the same for yourself?

Choose to be happy, think about that when you meet someone new, and the true key to expanding your network?

Take the time to listen to other people and what makes them happy.

That is it.

If people understand that you are there to listen, that you are paying attention, and that you genuinely care about what makes them happy, they will love you.

High fives are shared every morning with Andre and I. Is it cheesy that I know the guy that hands out the paper on the street? Maybe. But when I am having a bad day, or something feels out of synch, rather than fumble my way through the busy streets wishing that the day is going to be a great one, I can high five a friend that has an ability to love the time that he spends doing his job.

Then take that pleasantness, go to work, and be pleasant to my co workers and clients.

Hope this helps.

Light up the darkness.

Best,

Transformational vocabulary...watch and learn

Hey Guys,


Been a while since my last post. Apologies for the wait, but the list of accomplishments has been growing over the past couple of months.

Lots of you call me the curve breaker(not academically), the pattern smasher, and the best has to be "The guy that always seems to hit that reset button inside".

What's the secret? It is smaller than you think...

Your mind is what makes you act. You think, act and then feel... whether you are not in tune enough with yourself or not, that is the order. Ralph Waldo Emerson says it like this "The ancestor to every action is a thought". What you think about determines how you feel...

You never feel your way into acting. We are not designed to be so primal. We have the ability to think, then act...

That is the key. If you ever wanted to quote me directly, this would be the one that has resonated with the most people...

"You don't feel your way into acting, you act your way into feeling." - JWCIV

Think about it. You do not start feeling different about your current state until you actually do some action to change it.

Easiest way to change what you think about? Listen to yourself. The very words that you utter to yourself are the words that initiate your thoughts. therefore words = thoughts= action=feeling. Quantify it like this. If the inputs in this chain are of a certain association you will feel that way at the end of the process.

So, words that carry a joyous association will yield joyous feelings...Words that have a stressful association in your mind will yield a stressful feeling.
Listen to the phrases that you tell yourself and realize that you can command the way that you feel at will.

Instead of saying that you have "Had it up to here" say it this way: "I am getting close to reaching my maximum".

This slight difference will literally make you feel different about the situation.

works in responses also. When you respond to someone and you utter something like " That is ridiculous" think about the way that you feel about what was told to you.

Find words that carry different associations with them.

Watch the phrases that you tell people.

"What if you meant to say, "what's troubling you", and instead you said: "what's wrong with you?"" - Jim Rohn

Simple as that...Grab a dictionary and start finding the words that will keep you strong, solid, refreshed, amazed, and grateful.

You are in for a treat. One of my heroes is Will Smith. If there was ever someone that could be said to be a jack of all trades, it would be him...

Listen to his words...Feel the message...Make the day yours!

Let me know what you think.

Cheers,

JC

How do you get to where you want to be?

Often times we find ourselves thinking about how things could be. As humans, we are the only creatures that can look into the future for new emotions. Lots of people have been asking me why I focus so much on emotion, and not so much on the particulars of the processes they ask me about. The simple answer is that we want to learn these processes so we can ultimately feel a certain way about our lives. Emotion is the spice of life. So how do we change our emotional state? How do we make ourselves feel that we have arrived at our destination?

There are so many different systems, techniques, and therapies to give us the power to change, that a "paradox of choice" is created, and we do not know which is the best system, or the fastest, or even the most effective way to change.

The REAL way to get there...KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE NOW!

If you can understand the state that you are in fully right now, then you can know what you would like to be different. This is the starting point of your journey, and you need to fully understand everything. What do you like about where you are now? Where would you change? What would you like better?

Those that experience ultimate, crippling, what seems to be their end, pain are totally emersed in it. There is no other thing that they focus on. Speaking from personal experience, there is always some positive in everything. You must remember that "Life holds a potential meaning under any conditions, even the most miserable ones." - Viktor Frankl

Once you fully understand where you are, then you can start to look at where you want to go. Get grounded, stop feeling lost or useless, and then aim...

Little secret here. We often associate emotional states as objects that can be obtained. This is the furthest from the truth. Emotional states are achieved when multiple facets of our physiology, psychology and emotional intelligence are operating in a syngergistic state.

The state that we aim to achieve is usually experienced in an "ah ha" moment. When things all of a sudden click. It is not when you cross the finish line, not when you finally buy the car, but the synergy between your physiology, psychology, and emotional intelligence.

It is better said once again by Mr. Frankl; "Don't aim at success - the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater that oneself or as the by product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself."

still confused? Let me put it to you this way. Really examine the current place that you are in. To get to the place that you want to be, Analyse the 3 parts described above. Think about what it will feel like, and what it takes to get there. Look at small things. For example, want to feel more wealthy? This does not mean that you go and spend more money. Take a few hundred dollar bills and carry them in your wallet/money clip. DO NOT SPEND THE MONEY....JUST KNOW THAT IT IS THERE.You will have better physiology because you literally have a couple hundred dollars in your pocket, I always perk up when I have more money in my possession. You will have a different psychology, instead of thinking what you can't do, you start to think of all the things you could spend it on, and your emotional intelligence will change because you will now understand how different it feels when you make changes to the other two.

Try it out with other areas of your life. Master the now, and the future is only a few simple changes in rituals away. Follow the steps, and watch your "ah Ha" moments increase when you experience your own arrival at the place that you wanted to be...

Comment on some of the changes that you have experienced below please. I am eager to see the progress.

Cheers,

The 4 Seasons

Thank you for reading. Looks like the the followers list is growing, hopefully it grows a little more. As long as this blog continues to help people, I will continue to write.

Recently, a cold from from Alaska hit good old Reno. This reminded me of how fast the seasons can change. So, how is this going to help you? Understand the Seasons.

The Reason for the four seasons is not just to keep the scenery different. The seasons change so you have constant reminders that you need to get things done.The seasons change to take away that familiarity that you build comfort with. If it was always sunny, then you would find yourself taking it for granted. Furthermore, you would find yourself expecting sunny weather everyday. This deters from the goal of developing an attitude of Gratitude.

Could you see yourself being grateful for the sunny days, if you weren't forced to live in a couple of cloudy days?

Would you be thankful for the rainy days, if you weren't stuck in a scorching hot day outside?

My point is this. The Seasons change for one reason. To measure your progress!

Two ways that you can interpret something. To your benefit or to your disadvantage. Your power of perception will be the deciding factor in how these changed affect you. Choose how you want to feel and then be in awe of the changes.

you can feel the rain coming sometimes. The air seems to be heavier and thicker, there is moisture in the air, and you can literally feel the ions in the air moving around.

Listen to this little snippet from the late Jim Rohn:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6kyA0gyFos&feature=related

In closing, Be grateful for the changes that happen in your life. Feel excited when the seasons change. Do not focus on the times that you had, but the times that you are going to have. The only animal on this earth that can look to the future, and create a compelling future, is the homo sapien. Birds, alligators, fish, do not plan out their life to see what they can be. They are so focused on being reactive to their situation. Separate yourself from the animals. Be grateful for rain when you are being rained on. Breathe in the thicker air when you have a chance to. Tech yourself how to be happy when everyone else is complaining...and let your smile light up the dark life of someone else.

Here's to you,

JC