Often times we find ourselves thinking about how things could be. As humans, we are the only creatures that can look into the future for new emotions. Lots of people have been asking me why I focus so much on emotion, and not so much on the particulars of the processes they ask me about. The simple answer is that we want to learn these processes so we can ultimately feel a certain way about our lives. Emotion is the spice of life. So how do we change our emotional state? How do we make ourselves feel that we have arrived at our destination?
There are so many different systems, techniques, and therapies to give us the power to change, that a "paradox of choice" is created, and we do not know which is the best system, or the fastest, or even the most effective way to change.
The REAL way to get there...KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE NOW!
If you can understand the state that you are in fully right now, then you can know what you would like to be different. This is the starting point of your journey, and you need to fully understand everything. What do you like about where you are now? Where would you change? What would you like better?
Those that experience ultimate, crippling, what seems to be their end, pain are totally emersed in it. There is no other thing that they focus on. Speaking from personal experience, there is always some positive in everything. You must remember that "Life holds a potential meaning under any conditions, even the most miserable ones." - Viktor Frankl
Once you fully understand where you are, then you can start to look at where you want to go. Get grounded, stop feeling lost or useless, and then aim...
Little secret here. We often associate emotional states as objects that can be obtained. This is the furthest from the truth. Emotional states are achieved when multiple facets of our physiology, psychology and emotional intelligence are operating in a syngergistic state.
The state that we aim to achieve is usually experienced in an "ah ha" moment. When things all of a sudden click. It is not when you cross the finish line, not when you finally buy the car, but the synergy between your physiology, psychology, and emotional intelligence.
It is better said once again by Mr. Frankl; "Don't aim at success - the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater that oneself or as the by product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself."
still confused? Let me put it to you this way. Really examine the current place that you are in. To get to the place that you want to be, Analyse the 3 parts described above. Think about what it will feel like, and what it takes to get there. Look at small things. For example, want to feel more wealthy? This does not mean that you go and spend more money. Take a few hundred dollar bills and carry them in your wallet/money clip. DO NOT SPEND THE MONEY....JUST KNOW THAT IT IS THERE.You will have better physiology because you literally have a couple hundred dollars in your pocket, I always perk up when I have more money in my possession. You will have a different psychology, instead of thinking what you can't do, you start to think of all the things you could spend it on, and your emotional intelligence will change because you will now understand how different it feels when you make changes to the other two.
Try it out with other areas of your life. Master the now, and the future is only a few simple changes in rituals away. Follow the steps, and watch your "ah Ha" moments increase when you experience your own arrival at the place that you wanted to be...
Comment on some of the changes that you have experienced below please. I am eager to see the progress.
Cheers,
