The Double D's That Can Change Your Life in an Instant

I first had read that influence was both "Powerful and subtle" when I read of it's description in Jim Rhon's book, Leading an Inspired Life.Took a while for that one to set in. powerful and subtle. Made me realize that there were two things in your life that are related, that are responsible for every major happenstance in your life.

1- Decision. This is our ultimate power. Our choices are what makes things occur in our life. Whether we decide to do something, or sell ourselves on ignoring something that we said we were going to do, those decisions hold the ultimate power. It is as subtle as deciding whether or not you are going to eat an apple a day, or make that one last call to your client when you really don't want to. To deciding that you have had enough of what is going on.

Look at how powerful this is! When you do not draw the line in the sand and choose to no longer go down the path that you are going down, you feel lost, without purpose, and uncertain of what is going to happen in your life. You start to think about what if's instead of what have I made happen. And after a couple of cycles of this, the internal conflict becomes unbearable. The beautiful thing is, that a decision can be made in an instant! the precursor being all that has happend up to that point, but your life can change for the better, just by taking one more breath, and deciding. Leading you to the second D even when you have done your all to ignore being there.

2- Disgust. I'll do my best not to confuse you here, but the introspection and self realization that needs to lead up to your point of disgust requires a lot of energy. That is why you feel drained with something that is on your mind and heart that you know you should do something about, but you don't, because you have not "reached your limit with it yet".


Disgust. There has to be a point where you become disgusted. Not in a negative way, but when you are tired of putting up with it. You tell yourself that enough is enough. "The history of our world is written this way. Look at what happened when a woman says "No! I will not move to the back of the bus!""- Tony Robbins.

You feel relief. The same feeling you get when you are driving in heavy rain, and finally see the lights of your destination. When it is snowing, and you can see the sun through the clouds. When the window is dirty, but you can still choose to focus on the exquisite sunset instead of the dirty specs on the window. Or when you feel that you are lost, and hopeless, and you become disgusted and tell yourself " I will never let this happen again." I will do everything in my power, and devote all that I am to never feeling like this again."

One of the best stories I ever heard, was an interview with an executive at Tiffany & Co. in New York City. When asked how she managed to obtain her status without any College training, she replied..."One day I went and asked my husband for $10 and he replied "What for?" From that day on, I told myself that I would never be in the position where I needed to ask him for money again."

How amazing is that. That something so subtle as a question could produce so much power, and cause that much change in one person's life.

So take the time to look at what is going on. Are there things that you brush off that should be dealt with? Are there things that you need to change, that you should no longer wait to change? Could there be something that you are disgusted with, that you need to make a decision about? Don't ignore the little things. It's the littlest things that make the most difference, and like a bad credit card, if you don't take care of it, it will compound until you get to a place you never thought you would be.

I challenge you to play around with these double D's and see how much better your life feels.

Disgusted? Then Decide. The hope you will have is endless.

To your happiness.

JC

Is your word enough?

"His word is enough"

What does that mean to you when you read that? Literally, it may sound overly brief, but the meaning of this phrase gives feelings to people that would inspire them to move mountains.

Ask yourself this question, are/were there people in your life that make you feel like their words are enough? When they tell you that they will do something, you believe them without a doubt? Or, when they tell you "yes" or "No", that they mean it?

Shouldn't "his word be enough" for your father? Isn't that something that would be amazing to be able to say about your pops? That you have such a great relationship with your father, that all he needs to give you, is nothing more than his words? "It's going to be OK. I Promise. I love you. You are amazing. I am here for you."

Or how about your best friend? Do you think that is why you have the friends that you have? Because there is a mutual understanding that what they tell you and what you tell them is believed, trusted, accepted without conditions? You do not have to doubt what they tell you, or that they are just "feeding you words".

What an amazing concept. Now, I myself am not at this point with all of my friends, yet... As humans, we are the only organisms that can do more/less than we are capable of. Geese fly south, bears hibernate, roosters crow, and dogs bark. What are we meant to do? Strive.

We have the ability to overcome, rewrite, unwind and rewind whatever we do not like in our lives. So Strive. Strive to make sure that your "Word is enough" with those that you choose to share your life with.

This includes everyone that you share your time with. Even if you do not like the person, you must make sure. For yourself, your friends, your loved ones, and your family, that your are not lazy with your words. Use your words lightly, and they will be taken lightly. Use your words carefully, and they will be cherished.

Strive to make your words enough for everyone that you speak to. And watch how your life improves.

Have a great day!

All the best,

JC

Joseph Campbell: You know EVERYONE!!!

Joseph Campbell: You know EVERYONE!!!: "I find it hilarious that people tell me that 'You know everyone' when we go out. I never thought about it, until I moved to the east coast a..."

You know EVERYONE!!!

I find it hilarious that people tell me that "You know everyone" when we go out. I never thought about it, until I moved to the east coast and had to meet new people and discover new places.

It wasn't until dinner with some friends that I realized that it isn't the environment that fosters this phenomena, but the interactions that you have with people that helps this to happen.

This isn't just a post on how you should treat people...just an observation of success

I learned a valuable lesson from a random stranger in moving to this city. his actions have helped me tremendously, and I hope that they provide some insight for you as well.

Every morning, I exit the subway in Times Square, and every morning, there is a man that stands at the top of the stairs and hands out a free newspaper. As sure as you can be about the sun rising, you can always hear him saying "metro, metro..".

He could choose to just stand there with the stack of papers with his arm extended, not say anything, and hope that people will have an interest in reading his paper and pick one up.

But he speaks with a confident, enthusiastic, smiling voice that permeates through crowds.

How does this relate to networking?

Think of a room of people that you have never met before...Room of strangers. Uncomfortable yet?

Take a piece of advice from Andre...Be enthusiastic and speak confidently to people. Think of things that make you happy, and fill yourself with thoughts that make you feel good.

To summarize, Find reasons and thoughts to be grateful for the life that you have. This will permeate from you, and people will literally be attracted to you.

Even though Andre has one of the most insignificant roles in this city, he still is an integral piece of the look and feel of one of the greatest cities in the world.

Everyone has a place and a role...When I asked Andre how he does it every day, his words hit me like a freight train of truth. "Man, I have to be here, why not think of things that make me smile?"

And there it is. Still in the room full of strangers? Think of something that makes you smile. Watch the people look at you when you start smiling. How curious do you find yourself when you see someone smiling of laughing?

Think pleasant thoughts and you will meet pleasant people. "You are who you attract" - John C. maxwell.

As simple as this all sounds... try it. If thinking about a funny thought doesn't work for you in a setting like this then don't do it again. But I would be willing to bet that Andre's advice will work for you.

And everyone knows what happens if you don't try this. Nothing...

Andre knows himself well enough to know what makes him happy. Can you say the same for yourself?

Choose to be happy, think about that when you meet someone new, and the true key to expanding your network?

Take the time to listen to other people and what makes them happy.

That is it.

If people understand that you are there to listen, that you are paying attention, and that you genuinely care about what makes them happy, they will love you.

High fives are shared every morning with Andre and I. Is it cheesy that I know the guy that hands out the paper on the street? Maybe. But when I am having a bad day, or something feels out of synch, rather than fumble my way through the busy streets wishing that the day is going to be a great one, I can high five a friend that has an ability to love the time that he spends doing his job.

Then take that pleasantness, go to work, and be pleasant to my co workers and clients.

Hope this helps.

Light up the darkness.

Best,